“WITH you it’s different”

It’s been four and a half years since Tom passed away.  Just writing that seems unreal.  It is hard for me to believe that he has been gone so long.  Much of the grief of his passing has tempered with time.  I still think of him almost daily, although a lot of the pain of that remembering has gone away.  […]

Writing and Thinking

I wrote this post in my head two nights ago when I couldn’t sleep. I have a ton of empathy for sufferers of insomnia.  That feeling of laying in bed, trying to doze off, and there’s just no sleep coming … it is bearable for one night but as a chronic thing I’m not sure I wouldn’t slowly go crazy. […]

Smiles and Tears

Last weekend I drove out to Utah for the wedding of my niece.  It doesn’t really matter that I’ve made this trip so many times in the past, or that even in the past year I’ve made it a half a dozen times.  I get in the car and there is all that uninterrupted time to think… and what I […]

Marriage Therapy

A couple of weekends ago, Tom and I took a trip to Salt Lake City, sans kids.  It was a great long weekend! The Backstory:  Tom wanted to surprise me with tickets to Bare Naked Ladies.  Somehow, though, when he got through with the purchase process, he discovered he’d purchased tickets to their Salt Lake City concert instead of their […]

Happy 20th Anniversary – a little late …

So, back on December 27th Tom & I passed a significant milestone in our life together – we’ve been officially hitched for 20 years!  Just saying that seems a little unreal.  20 years is almost half of the total time I’ve been alive.  Somehow I’ve gone from sharing my life with someone I’m “getting to know” to sharing my life […]

Marriage

So I keep hearing what strike me as fairly ridiculous reasons for ending relationships. I realize these are “sound bites” but that anyone buys these reasons?? Re: the Jim Carrey/Jenny McCarthy breakup, “The first thing is, when it’s not fun anymore, you need to start investigating and doing an inquiry into the relationship.” Re: the Susan Sarandon/Tim Robbins breakup, “Maybe […]